Dressing is wider than we think it is, to me I feel dressing completes humans, because with dressing you can recognise those from a particular tribe, those who practice certain religion, those from a particular profession and even those going to the moon (lol). Without you saying anything, your dressing speaks for you, so don’t dress in a certain way if you don’t want people to address you in that way. More than your dressing speaking for you, it speaks to you also, beyond your dressing passing out a certain message to people, it greatly affects how you yourself feel, which is our major focus today. A research was carried out and it was discovered that students who put on lab coat during practicals feel more like scientists and they feel more intelligent than those who do not. Have you ever gone to a gathering where you didn’t feel like it’s a really big one and you just dressed casually and on getting there you see people dressed in their best, how did you feel? If this has ever happened to you let me know in the comment section Before we move on, you need to know that your dressing isn’t limited to just the clothes you put on, your dressing involves your hair and shoe and everything in between. The hair you have on, the colour of clothes you put on, the accessories you put on, the makeup you wear, the bag you carry, the shoes you put on e.t.c. (Dressing well or looking beautiful doesn’t mean opening sensitive parts of your body like your cleavage or tight, at the same time I’m not shaming those who do that, I’m just saying that isn’t what it means to dress well or look beautiful.) Also, confidence isn’t a state of feeling better than others, it’s a state of certainty or security, being sure about yourself, when you know you’re enough, when you don’t feel you’re under the mat (lol) or just there. That’s not a standard definition, it’s just the way I see it. There so many reasons people have issues with confidence, reasons like comparison, abuse, ignorance e.t.c, one which most of us don’t really realise is dressing. First of all, your confidence should not be grounded in mundane things, God created you in His image and likeness, I mean, you’re not in anyway less of a human, God didn’t create someone else to be better than you, nor did he create you to be better than someone else and He loves you, yes God loves you. Let’s lay that foundation first. Now the fact that you know you’re loved by God and created in His image doesn’t mean you may not loose your confidence sometimes, if you work in a bank and you dress shabbily, you can start feeling unconfident, if you’re fond of dressing slovenly and you lack self confidence, there’s a very high chance that you feel so because of the way you dress, even if you just dress averagely, step up your dressing game and watch the change in your confidence level. In my definition of confidence, I said it’s when you know you’re enough, your dressing can also make you feel you’re enough. Take for instance, a man is going for a job interview, he puts on a complete suit, neatly ironed, a matching tie, a pair of socks and shoes, with his hair well cut and beards well trimmed with a nice wrist watch and his bag, more than you and interviewers perceiving him to be competent, he himself will feel good about himself, he will feel enough and competent, but someone who justs puts on a rough shirt which is neither white nor cream and baggy green trousers and you notice that half of the leather on his belt and shoes have pealed off, rough hair, no socks, even if the person had the right skills for the job, do you think he will be given a high consideration? He himself will not feel confident that job will be given to him, especially when he sees that way others are dressed. One of the reasons I changed the game in my dressing was because, there was a time I was just mediocre about dressing and people would often compare my dressing with that of my mum’s, they would say “ahn ahn, see how your mum is dressing, whao, she’s so beautiful” and they don’t tell me the same, nobody told me before I changed the game (lol) now when people see my mum they say “now I know where you got your fashion sense from” that sounds a lot better right (lol). My grandma always says “the beauty of a woman starts from the beauty of her hair”, I can’t even afford not to dress well where my grandma is, yes I said my grandma, I can’t go to her if my hair is rough, that’s the first thing my grandma will point out to me. Let me know in the comment section of your surprised by my grandma or you have a grandma like mine. My grandma is very correct, every lady’s hair is her crown she can never take off, (even the Bible says a woman’s hair is given to her as a covering), can you imagine a King putting on a rusted crown? That’s exactly how it looks when you carry a rough hair. My next post will be on genaral hair care and hacks, you’ll love it more if you have natural hair and don’t know how to care for it or you’re considering having a natural hair and you don’t really know how to go about it. Let me know in the comment section if you’re anticipating it. Finally guys, I hope you’ve realised that fact that your dressing contributes to your confidence and I hope this post has helped you if you have issues with self confidence or you’re often uncomfortable about how people address you. Let me know in the comment section how this post has helped you. If you read this post till now, you’re a rare gem, you’re also a rare gem even if you didn’t (how will they even see this if they didn’t read this post till this level) lol. See you at the top. Cheers.
